Is family supposed to act this way?
Why is it that we are all constantly in some sort of disagreement with a family member? So, someone does something your family doesn’t like. Apologies have been made….attempts to talk have gone unrequited….phone calls have not been answered or just ignored. What do you do then?
Maybe it hurt them. Maybe it hurt someone else and they are feeling protective. Or maybe theu just don’t care enough about you to resolve it. All the apologies in the world are not going to change a person’s mind that just doesn’t want to be changed. I have always been a firm believer in this:
You cannot change the way a person acts, you can only change your reaction to that person.
So…..how long does it take for the grudge holder to become satisfied? A week? Month? Year?…….how long is so long that the person who was wrong just has to give up?
It took a death in my family to changes minds on an issue that was long overdue in resolving. Do you wait for dealth again? Or does death not even cover every single disagreement or wrong doing?
Definition of Grudge: a feeling of ill will or resentment: to hold a grudge against a former opponent.
1. bitterness, rancor, malevolence, enmity, hatred.
Wow…those are harsh terms to apply to someone you once loved and cared about. I always thought family is FAMILY. People screw up. People make huge mistakes. Is everything unforgiveable?
Read the link below and then consider your options.