“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
~Thomas Alva Edison
Is it possible to tell someone how unhappy you are in a nice way? How do you say to someone you love,”Umm, I have been trying to talk to you for a while now and you haven’t been particularly receptive and I am just at the end of my rope, so if something doesn’t change soon….I’m done.”
I know there are much better ways of phrasing it, but you understand the general concept, right? How do you make someone realize that you are feeling so frustrated, helpless or whatever the case may be, without it turning into WW III?
So many people keep their feelings bottled up inside. They have coined the phrase “bottled up” for a reason. The bottle eventually explodes.
No one wants to explode. It’s not something you plan for…not an occurrence that is well thought out….it is a final exercise in fruition. You can’t possible try talking to someone about an issue that is bothering you for so long…have no compromise and not eventually irrupt. Telling someone you love that the situation you are in is hurting you is hard. It makes you feel weak and makes them feel either empathic or powerful. The first being the best choice. Unfortunately, too often than not, some people like to have all the power in a relationship. They like the control and feelings of superiority. I am a control freak, so feeling helpless is the worst feeling I could ever go through.
People have to realize that relationships, marriages and friendships are a series of compromises. If one partner is not willing to compromise than it is not a true bond, in a sense. If you love someone enough, you have to be willing to do anything and everything within your power to make the relationship work.
Unfortunately, I have learned this the hard way a few times. Most of the time it has worked out for the better, but some have gone to a point of no return.
I have always believed that it’s good to cry, be angry, feel manipulated or betrayed by someone. It shows that you still care.
It’s when the tears stop and the anger fades that is makes me worry. These are signs of not caring…and when you stop caring, it is ten times worse than any hurt. It means you have given up.
I am starting to give up…..